I often hear people say that they feel like they were born in the wrong time, and I sometimes feel the same way, but I’ve come to believe that the reason behind these feelings is the lack of authenticity in our modern lives.
In a way, our lives are no longer “real”. They might be easier, but the satisfaction and depth that comes from real interactions is becoming lost.
Consider the food you eat, for example. So many of us now buy meals that are prepared by others. Meals that are unlikely to be fresh. Meals that are not made with love. Meals that do not allow us to control what we are feeding our bodies (or poisoning our bodies with, either).
Even if we do cook our own meals, we’ve removed ourselves from the experience of growing our own food. Our fingers are not tainted by the smell of freshly picked herbs as we cook. We’ve forgotten the sweetness of an heirloom carrot freshly pulled from the ground, and instead accept tasteless impostors that are bred for mass production.
In our homes, we prefer to switch on a heater for the sake of convenience, rather than chop wood and create fire. We have electronic devices that do things for us, choosing music for us and controlling our environment. We don’t even get out of our chairs to change the channel on the television anymore!
“I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear; nor did I wish to practice resignation, unless it was quite necessary. I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life, to live so sturdily and Spartan-like as to put to rout all that was not life, to cut a broad swath and shave close, to drive life into a corner, and reduce it to its lowest terms.”
[Henry David Thoreau – Walden]
Furthermore, in this shrinking world, our interactions with others are often virtual. We knowingly watch edited and censored versions of other people’s lives, with the reality and pain carefully cut out, only to be shocked later on when we discover that they had been existing in pain and loneliness.
People have relationships from afar that are defined by the persona chosen by those involved, fantasising about how things might be, yet avoiding the messiness and courage required to show up and really love one another in the flesh.
Even when faced with a real person, we allow our minds and focus to be torn away by our phones, our to-do list, or the television in the background. Do we value our loved ones so little that we would not grace them with our full attention?
We are bombarded by images of the human body that are deemed beautiful, so that when faced with the real thing (our own or that of another), we respond with disappointment and loathing. We forget how wonderful and complex our bodies really are, and don’t acknowledge them for the amazing things they do, and the joy they can bring us.
Instead of looking at moonlight, we immerse ourselves in artificial light. Instead of feeling the earth between our toes, we wear our shoes everywhere. We walk past our fellow humans without saying hello. We’ve forgotten to talk to the trees. We don’t jump in puddles for fear of being thought childish. We watch cute cat videos on YouTube instead of burying our faces in the fur of a real cat and smelling the dirt on her paws.
Many will say they have no time in this busy world to create a more handmade life. Busy doing what? Watching TV? Checking for likes on social media? Looking for other people’s adventures on Twitter? Waiting for a meal to arrive? Shopping for the next best thing?
God gave us this beautiful world so that we could make it our playground. He gave us other people so that we can feel the joy of bravely loving them till it hurts. He gave us bodies so that we can move, explore, touch, smell, and immerse ourselves in the creation of our lives, or in each other.
Ask yourself: are you living a life in three dimensions? It should be imperfect, self-crafted, messy, riddled with mistakes, and filled with crazy love.
What are you waiting for?
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This is so beautiful and thought provoking. We do tend to spend a lot of time digitally that steals us of moments that build up a relationship or time we get to enjoy Gods creation.
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Live in the moment and cherished it and most importantly be in the moment always.
Not sure if you’re aware of the background the Samurai but I try to emulate my life in their state of mind they would be completely immersed in whatever they absorbed their conviction into.
https://evolutionofselffeedyourhunger.wordpress.com/2019/03/27/ghost-of-the-samurai/
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Sounds good
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Thank you 😁 I’m glad it has helped you think about this, and hopefully live in a more aware state 💞
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Good, timely post Wendy. Allan
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Awesome! I’m glad it has been relevant to you today 😊
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So true. “The perfect life” and “the perfect relationship” are myths foisted upon us by lazy, shallow, self-seeking marketing men and media empires. A life worth living and any relationship worth having will inevitably be difficult at times, and must be worked at every day. Isn’t it ironic that in the modern age of social media, with all opportunities for interaction that it supposedly offers, loneliness appears to be more prevalent than ever before? When people start believing that their worth as human beings is determined by the number of “friends” or “likes” they have on social media we can be sure that something has gone seriously wrong.
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Wonderful comment, thank you!! I entirely agree!! I personally think that challenges in both life and relationships make them more exciting and provide opportunities for personal growth 😊 As for social media, the addictive nature of it is quite disturbing. Are we using IT, or is it using US? 😕
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Insightful Wendy
I can relate for me I believe that I am not the modern mould of what it is today I live my own testament and code and execute my actions through conviction:
For me, my state of mind is that for of ancient Samurai without Honour you have nothing.
https://evolutionofselffeedyourhunger.wordpress.com/2018/11/20/warrior-code/
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Exactly! We need to live our own version of the truth, not just follow the herd!! 😊 Thanks for commenting 😊
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Np anytime Wendy
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Girl, you have really stepped up your game on this one! LOVED it
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Thanks, James. For your comment AND your compliment 😊 I’m so glad you liked it.
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A lot of thought when into it, and it was very informative.
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Awww, you’re too sweet 😊
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This is such a great post. I can’t help but think of all the writer’s I’ve “met” and comment on without ever meeting anyone…. I’ve been trying to think of more to say on this all dang day, but alas I have a migraine and it’s just not coming to me.
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I’m so sorry you have a migraine – you can be forgiven for having a “stalled” brain 🙂 I still feel that blogging is a lot more genuine than other social media. People declare a lot about their lives, good or bad.
I’ve only been blogging for a short time but I have made some lovely friends through blogging, and even though they are in other countries, they are still very precious to me. I hope one day I might get to meet them. I hope you feel better after a good sleep.
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Wow, Wendy,
Really love the description of a ‘messy, imperfect, mistake ridden, self crafted authentic self filled with crazy love.’ ✌️🙂
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LOL. When I read it back now, I realise that life is like that anyway, whether we choose to see it or not. Thanks so much for reading and commenting 😁
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Yes it is Wendy 😁
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My Dear Wendy, this is soo beautiful. Content like this is the reason why I love reading blogs. Well written, neat with a heart. 🙂 Loving it.
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Thank you. I really appreciate your kind words :o) I’m so glad you enjoyed it!!
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Love this post, Wendy. And the quote… So many reminders of how we need to keep our lives ‘real’ and savour the simplest – yet often the most beautiful – things that the world has to offer. Thank you! xx
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Thanks. Yes, God is in the details…
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